CircleBridge bookHold the circle and its transitions
A third thing can be a poem, story, image, or object that allows participants to engage indirectly with personal meaning. It is a shared focus rather than a demand for disclosure or a message with one required interpretation. The chapter also describes the harm that can arise when a vulnerable circle is followed by a practical or transactional interaction without a clear transition. Closing the circle names a change of mode and protects what participants have entrusted to the group. The companion activities here are adaptations for reflection, not a substitute for the preparation needed to facilitate the specific Circle of Trust© approach.
A practice to try
Choose a shared text and explain why you are offering it. Read it twice, invite a word or phrase, allow private reflection, and offer optional pair sharing. Close the reflective space explicitly before practical business.
School or classroom
Keep reflective meaning-making separate from assessment of subject knowledge.
University or college
Use a voluntary reflective opening before a seminar, with a clear shift into academic discussion.
Organization or community
Close a reflective opening before performance decisions, evaluation, or problem-solving.
Reflection questions from the book
Building Trust Through Vulnerability
Reflect on a time when you experienced or witnessed vulnerability in a group setting. How did the presence (or absence) of trust influence the outcome of that experience? What role do you think the Touchstones© or a similar framework could have played in creating a safe space for sharing?
The Role of the Third Thing
The third thing in a Circle of Trust© serves as a focal point for reflection and connection. Think of an object, story, poem, or other "third thing" that has inspired meaningful personal or group reflection for you. How might you use such a focal point in your own work or relationships?
Transitioning Between Vulnerable and Practical Spaces
The chapter discusses the importance of clearly marking the end of a Circle of Trust© before transitioning to a different type of engagement. Reflect on an experience where a lack of transition caused tension or harm. What steps might you take to ensure smoother transitions in your interactions or meetings?
Invitational Sharing and Listening
In a Circle of Trust©, sharing and listening are invitational rather than mandatory. Reflect on how this principle might shift the dynamics of your group settings. How could you encourage participation while respecting individuals' autonomy to choose their level of engagement?
Companion guidance by Scott Simpson and Sharla Steever. Consult the book alongside these resources; activities and summaries do not replace the complete book.