CircleBridge bookMeet people with curiosity
Her account makes communication differences concrete: forms of address, expectations of respect, and teacher-student relationships may carry meanings that are not immediately visible. Curiosity helps her hear those meanings before imposing a local norm or another technique. Grounding and presence create space for a more reflective response. Sandi’s support for a teacher shows how a thoughtful conversation can help someone discover their own next step. The educator’s humanity remains central to professional development.
A practice to try
Ask someone about a communication practice you take for granted. Listen for what respect means to them, and discuss a workable approach together.
School or classroom
Ask learners what helps them feel respected in conversation, then reflect on classroom routines.
University or college
Discuss expectations around names, titles, feedback, and participation with new students and faculty.
Organization or community
During onboarding, explain local practices and invite questions about their meaning.
Reflection questions from the book
Cultural Grounding and Resilience
Sandi credits her cultural upbringing and practices, such as grounding herself before completing her second IDI assessment, as sources of strength. Reflect on your own cultural or personal practices that help you navigate challenges. How do these practices support your resilience and ability to engage with others? Are there any practices you would like to adopt or deepen to enhance your ability to remain grounded in difficult situations?
Navigating Leadership with Vulnerability
Sandi demonstrates how vulnerability can be a strength in leadership, fostering trust and connection with her team. Think about a time when you led with vulnerability or witnessed someone else doing so. What impact did it have on relationships and outcomes? How can you incorporate vulnerability into your leadership or interactions in a way that strengthens connections and builds trust?
Balancing Dual Roles and Identities
As an Indigenous woman and leader working with a diverse group of teachers, Sandi navigates the dual roles of advocate and mediator. Reflect on a time when you felt caught between two roles or identities, whether personal or professional. How did you navigate the tension, and what did you learn from the experience? How can this reflection help you balance similar situations in the future?
Responding to Polarization and Reversal
Sandi’s story includes moments of polarization and reversal, particularly as she grapples with her place within and outside dominant cultural systems. Reflect on a situation where you felt polarized or experienced reversal in your views. How did you respond, and what strategies could help you approach such moments with greater intentionality and balance? How can curiosity and empathy guide you through these experiences?
Companion guidance by Scott Simpson and Sharla Steever. Consult the book alongside these resources; activities and summaries do not replace the complete book.